The Notebook

No this post isn't about the movie "The Notebook" but dang that movie really is a great movie, you should watch it if you haven't done so yet. It brought tears to my eyes lol. Anyhow this post is about communication with your spouse/partner. I was cleaning my closet one day and found "The Notebook" it actually says that on the cover and it's filled with love letters from the past. You might be thinking OMG that's so childish. In the beginning of our relationship back when we started dating we would write each other love letters. He would start off by writing a poem about how he feels, then I'd write back in letter form telling him how I felt, then before you know it, we are writing back and forth to each other about what were doing at the moment and so forth. We filled the book until there were no pages. Every now and then, I would read the entire thing and laugh about the stuff we put in (there were drawings too). But that notebook gave me an idea. I decided we should write notes to each other once again, I figure -hey we both of cell phones, why not use the text messaging. So we started writing naughty text messages back and forth and it helped with our sex life. We also wrote "love" notes. But then his cell phone broke and there was no way of texting one another. So we got creative yet again and now we use our kids' play writing magnetic toy board (the one where you can erase the message with one swipe). We leave it in the bathroom so that way every morning we can see the message while getting ready to head out. We write encouraging love notes this time around since we are going through tough times. For example, I'd write " Good Morning! GOD loves U! Remember to Pray! Love you!" then he would reply " Ok I will pray, have a nice day and I love GOD, U & da kids". So this is our way of communicating with each other and believe it or not it actually brings us closer. I encourage everyone to try finding ways of communicating even if it means you have to get creative. Remember communication is very important in any relationship. How do you all communicate with your spouses/partner?

My birthday wish

My birthday was on Saturday and my wish was to spend it with my husband. It came true because I made it happen! We got family members to watch all 3 of our little monkeys for the weekend so that me and hubby can have the time of our life! On Friday night we went to the movies and watched Final Destination in 3D, that was a first for us to watch a movie in 3D lol. On Saturday we went to Hanauma Bay to snorkel that too was a first for us! Even though I've lived here all my life, I have never been there until that day and it was so pretty. The fishes were exotic and full of life. It was a great workout (swimming) and experience. Then on Sunday we went to Ko'olina Beach and rode on Kayaks, a first for me! Those paddles really works your arms! wow. I had a great time and doing these experiences for the first time is what really made it enjoyable for me. The best birthday presents you can get is the memories of doing something fun versus material possessions or wealth in my book. In addition to this I was able to spend lots of quality time to better my relationship with my hubby and that's whats awesome too. Now I'm looking forward to trying ATV riding and maybe I'll try and get hubby to go horseback riding with me one day, we'll see?.

Finding my purpose in life

I am sitting in front of my computer with hubby away with the boys and baby girl sleeping. Now that its quiet, I can think and hear what my thoughts are saying. I've come to realize that I have been paying too much attention to others and not my self. I realize I am too focused on my children, I care for them daily but am wrapped up into there world same goes for my marriage. I have lost interest in my hobbies/passions and really don't know what I like to do, could be because I don't know what to do when I do have the free time (sometimes). Things that I have loved doing is non existent in my life now. I don't have a job or career and if I had to go back to school, I wouldn't know what to do? Wow what happen to me? Every now and then I would get sad and down and out and couldn't figure out why, but I'm starting to think its probably because I don't have a passion/goal/hobby. My hubby has his hobbies which includes diving and surfing. When I see him happy and excited cause he caught a "huge" wave or a "monster" fish, I start to think like "wow I want to feel the excitement he feels!" The only question now is how do I do that? They say when you are happy as a person, then everything in your life falls into place and all areas- family, marriage etc. will be happy. So I guess what I'm trying to say in this post is do what you have to do to make yourself happy, dream big and reach your goals, find things you enjoy doing and do them because in the end your spouse and family will thank you.